![]() | BDSM Relationships 1 - Understanding BDSM Relationships | | | | | BDSM is commonly seen as simply being about rope bondage, torture, sex, The Story Of O, and leather-clad dominatrices. When it's portrayed in books and media the focus is often on individual and intense experiences with little attention to any relationships the participants may have with each other. Certainly in some cases BDSM may only be a minor thread running through an otherwise ordinary relationship, but for some people BDSM can be a major and necessary part of their lives with their partner.
The term BDSM is an acronym which stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Masochism and Sadism. The scope of BDSM is much larger than this simple acronym suggests, and the sorts of desires and needs which it can help satisfy are typically much more expansive than most people realise.
In book one of the BDSM Relationships series, Peter Masters looks at the principles and psychology behind both BDSM and particularly the relationships which BDSM practitioners have with each other. He describes three pillars which can be used to understand the nature of, and to understand problems related to such relationships.
While for many people who practice BDSM it's limited to occasional bedroom escapades involving fluffy handcuffs, dripping candle wax, or some light bondage play with rope, for others it may be a vital form of self-expression or may be something which they want or need to have outside the bedroom as well as in. It's important to understand the nature of BDSM and the sorts of wants and needs it can help satisfy.
In addition, being able to construct a solid foundation on which a longer-term BDSM can be supported is vital if the relationship is to have any longevity.
This book looks at the fundamentals of BDSM relationships, at what underpins them and supports them, and what can undercut them and cause them to collapse. It examines misconceptions and tries to display the "bigger picture" of BDSM, showing how many of the common needs and desires we all have can be met in a BDSM relationship with a supportive partner.
The book also looks that the different sorts of people who get involved in BDSM, the roles they may adopt with each other and how these roles help them get their own wants and needs met and how they contribute to the satisfaction and pleasure of their partner. |
![]() | BDSM Relationships 2 - How They Work | | | | | In this second book of the BDSM Relationships series, Peter Masters takes as a starting point the principles and psychology of BDSM which he talked about in book one, and then places them in practical contexts, looking at how real-life BDSM activities and relationships serve to satisfy the wants and needs of practitioners. In particular, he takes the three BDSM pillars described in book one, looks at the effects that different BDSM activities and relationship types have on these, and shows the effects on both the wants and needs met by BDSM, and on the BDSM relationships themselves. Fundamental to this is, on the one hand, the role which the relationship has in allowing engaging and satisfying BDSM activities to be pursued and, on the other hand, the role which BDSM itself has in supporting and consolidating the relationship. Importantly, a longer-term relationship founded on trust and familiarity often forms a context in which much more profound experiences can be had than those you can find in a casual encounter. For this reason alone, recognising the nature of BDSM relationships and the practical possibilities which a relationship creates is vital to many people, otherwise they simply wouldn't be able to find the intensity they need. Trust, honesty, openness and effective communication play a critical part in creating the structurally sound foundation on which any BDSM relationship is built. Typically, all of these have a greater impact on a BDSM relationship than on a non-BDSM relationship and affect the profound intimacy and engagement which BDSM folk often look for. Shortcomings in any of these dramatically reduce the level of engagement possible and, consequently, how satisfying the relationship can be. The physical nature of a relationship is also going to be significant factor. Do you live with your BDSM partner? Are you only into weekend-only BDSM, or do you want it to be more pervasive in your life? Are you looking for a slave or are you wanting to be a slave? Does the BDSM stop at the bedroom door? Is it only about sex? Is there a mental, spiritual, or intellectual component to your BDSM? Is pain important? Are domination or authority important? Is BDSM just about one thing for you, such as bondage, or are there multiple aspects to it? How does your partner fit into all this? Part of having a satisfying and successful BDSM relationship is, of course, actually meeting someone, and this book discusses how to meet new BDSM folk, how to assess what they're looking for and how this going to fit in with what you are looking for. Relationships don't remain static and as your own wants and needs evolve, the the sort of relationship you may need to be in to get those wants and needs met can change. The book looks at many of the places your relationship may go. |
![]() | BDSM Relationships 3 - Pitfalls and Obstacles | | | | | In this third book of the BDSM Relationships series, Peter Masters looks at many of the common pitfalls and obstacles which can get in the way of a satisfying BDSM-based relationship. It's rare that a deficiency in practical BDSM skills, such as flogging technique or ability to tie knots, causes a relationship to fail. Instead they mostly fail due to people problems. These can be misconceptions, assumptions, unreasonable or wrong expectations, poor communication, not appreciating the wants and needs you have yourself and the wants and needs your partner has, not understanding the depth of feelings involved, lack of openness, and sometimes simply poor planning. Often these have a dramatic impact on disparity of power, penetration and engagement. Another of the major problems which BDSM folk have in establishing a BDSM-based relationship with a partner is that there are few role models around. Our society provides ample examples of ordinary non-BDSM relationships, but many of the challenges in a BDSM relationship are unique to BDSM. This means that many newcomers to BDSM, and sometimes even old hands, find themselves in situations for which they aren't prepared and in which there may not be any obvious paths to take to get out. While a non-BDSM relationship may survive failing trust or poor communication, BDSM relationships are often much more affected because of the intimate and very personal nature of much of which BDSM activities involve. The focus of this book is these sorts of problems which are specific to BDSM relationships, and the sorts of problems which may also impact ordinary relationships but which can have their own twist in BDSM. The book attempts to illuminate the road ahead, signpost the potholes and pitfalls, and provide helpful detours around common and not-so-common obstacles. |
![]() | Beauty's Release (Sleeping Beauty Trilogy Book 3) | | A.N. Roquelaure (Anne Rice) | | | From Anne Rice, author of Beauty's Kingdom, the third book in the erotic Sleeping Beauty series
Before E.L. James' Fifty Shades of Grey and Sylvia Day's Bared to You,, there was Anne Rice’s provocative take on the timeless fairy tale “Sleeping Beauty. “ In the final volume of Anne Rice's deliciously tantalizing erotic trilogy, Beauty's adventures on the dark side of sexuality make her the bound captive of an Eastern Sultan and a prisoner in the exotic confines of the harem. As this voluptuous adult fairy tale moves toward conclusion, all Beauty's encounters with the myriad variations of sexual fantasy are presented in a sensuous, rich prose that intensifies this exquisite rendition of Love's secret world, and makes the Beauty series and incomparable study of erotica. In it, Anne Rice, writing as A.N. Roquelaure, makes the forbidden side of passion a doorway into the hidden regions of the psyche and the heart. |
![]() | Becoming a Slave: The Theory & Practice of Voluntary Servitude | | | | | Becoming a Slave is an authoritative, and well-documented book on the process of finding and submitting to a dominant. Beginning with a description of terms and the characteristics to be found in a master and in a slave, the book continues with how one realizes and understands their own desire to submit and serve, proceeds to the process of advertising, searching, meeting, and interviewing prospective masters, and ends with a great deal of practical advice on submitting, serving, and satisfying a dominant in a healthy and practical way. |
![]() | | | | | | Is your idea of couples' therapy a blindfold and a length of white rope? Does your Emergency Preparedness kit contain an extra set of handcuff keys? If you thrill to fantasies of restraint, these are the stories for you: 22 erotic adventures from the dirty minds of Thomas S. Roche, M. Christian, Rachel Kramer Bussel, and others. In Ayre Riley's breathless "All Tied Down," a girl named Gracie discovers that her "good-guy" boyfriend has read her journal and knows her every naughty wish. Marilyn Jaye Lewis's "Dinner at 8" is a socialite's trip to the dark side: an adulterous hour in a cheap Brooklyn hotel at the cruel mercies of her working-class lover. And in Tom Piccirilli's "It Ain't Always Easy," a casual hook-up takes a saucy turn when a pair of handcuffs is discovered in a nightstand drawer. Editor Alison Tyler returns with more of the perverse, pansexual, and scorchingly hot stories that made the first volume of Best Bondage Erotica melt off the shelves. |
![]() | | | | | | The stories in this reissued version of Cara Bruce’s popular anthology explore the irresistible lure of the sexual fetish, from leather and lingerie to shoes and shaving accessories. Nearly two dozen of today’s top erotica authors feature characters getting in and out of corsets and girdles, cross-dressing, giving or enduring spankings, playing with knives and rubber balls, and engaging in a host of other taboo yet tantalizing activities. Authors include Susie Bright, Alison Tyler, Marcy Sheiner, Thomas Roche, Greg Wharton, Rachel Resnick, and others. |
![]() | | | | | | Whether intricately secured by ropes, locked in handcuffs, or bound simply by a lover's command, these dangerously explicit stories of restraint will grab you, tie you down, and never let you go. From professionals letting loose their inhibitions on an office retreat to a garden full of earthy 'bound' delights this cornucopia of kink shows men put in their place and then held there firmly. Featuring some of the masters of gay bondage erotica including Jack Fritscher, Jeff Mann and Larry Townsend. |
![]() | | | Rachel Kramer Bussel (Editor) | | | Intelligent, upbeat, and sex-positive, the pieces in Best Sex Writing 2009 offer an in-depth look at sex the way it actually happens in America today. Gubernatorial sex scandals, rape fantasies, “Dear John” letters, teen sexuality, purity balls, the pregnant man, the science of screwing, bathroom sex, and other topics are scrutinized by noted columnists, bloggers, and authors in pieces that are funny, informative, challenging, sexy, and serious. Edited by sex commentator and erotic author Rachel Kramer Bussel and guest judge MSNBC sex columnist Brian Alexander, this collection goes behind the headlines for a very different kind of sex ed. |
![]() | Beyond Obedience: For all who are called to Mastery, Ownership, slavery, surrender & service | | | | | FINALIST in the 2017 National Leather Association International writing competition.
Welcome to an entirely new school of thought: Not only are certain individuals designed at birth to be slaves, but many undergo a spiritual process that literally transforms their essence into a "Bornslave." SlaveMaster and slave 7 are two men living in alignment with this belief. Their wisdom and insights are thought-provoking, as well as worthy of daily study and contemplation. Topics are arranged alphabetically and are presented from two distinct perspectives.
"Beyond Obedience" is not written only for Masters and slaves. SlaveMaster instructs all who are authentically called to Mastery, Ownership, slavery, surrender and service to know that the universe requires obedience to its guidance and instruction.
Acknowledge your unique design, and begin to live authentically by obeying the Spirit that created you. |
![]() | Blood and Silver: Erotic Stories | | | | | For decades, Patrick Califia has been one of the most prolific and outspoken voices in favor of freedom of sexual expression between consenting adults. He is also the author of erotic classics such as Macho Sluts, Doing It For Daddy, and Doc and Fluff. Blood and Silver collects the best of Califia's short erotic fiction along with three new stories. A submissive female android turns the tables on her abusive male master and runs off with his mistress. Little Red Riding Hood gets a makeover as a professional dominatrix who's not afraid of the Big Bad Wolf for the very simple reason that she is one. Frankie and Johnny play out a hot initiation fantasy from the 1950s. Blood and Silver is fiction without a safe word—smart, transgressive, and always hot. |
![]() | Boots, Bondage, and Beatings | | | | | Masters and slaves, tops and bottoms revel in boot worship, erotic bondage, and dick-stiffening beatings with fists, belt, or whip. But as heavy as the action gets, it never lacks emotional depth. david stein's first collection of short fiction features the same realism, fetishistic detail, and romance that made his novel, Carried Away (Daedalus, 2002), so memorable. In fact, the stories include a sexy "outtake" from the novel as well as a new epilogue that fans won't want to miss. |
![]() | Bottoms Up: Spanking Good Stories | | Rachel Kramer Bussel (Editor) | | | Here, we have a spanking tour de force for any curiosity, appetite, and sexual preference. And to that end, Rachel Kramer Bussel offers Bottoms Up, another delicious collection of stories that celebrates the pleasures of an inviting bum turned rosy red by hand, crop, whip, or paddle. Whether written from the perspective of the spanker or the spankee, those who crave discipline or those discovering for the first time how good being bad can feel, each vivid tale trembles with erotic pleasure. Bottoms Up is essential reading for those with endless capacities to have their bare bottoms soundly smacked, those who revel in delivering the deliciously ecstatic pain to a lover, or those who simply believe in turning the other cheek -- over and over and over again. |
![]() | Broken Toys: Submissives with Mental Illness and Neaurological Dysfunction | | Del Tashen & Raven Kaldera | | Submission, mental health | In erotic stories, consensual submissives and slaves are usually beautiful, perfect people who can endure any hardship while balancing a tray of drinks in one hand. But what about real life, where many of us in dominant/submissive or master/slave relationships cope with mental illness or neurological disorders? Some would say that these individuals shouldn’t even be doing power exchange, and yet many are – and they are making it work. Broken Toys explores the brave stories of people in service and surrender who are struggling with imperfect brains and nervous systems, and the inventive masters and mistresses who love them, and find ways to use the dynamic to keep everyone going. |
![]() | Building the Team - Cooperative Power Dynamic Relationships | | Raven Kaldera & Joshua Tenpenny | | Power Exchange relationships | When we create conscious and consenting power dynamic relationships, most of the models we find in fiction and fantasy are adversarial, with dominant and submissive members on opposite sides of a display of force. This model works for some couples, but not for all. Instead of an adversarial model, this book outlines a cooperative Teamwork model where the dominant and submissive members work together to make effective progress in the goals of the relationship. The Teamwork method of building a mindful unequal relationship emphasizes mutual responsibility, problem solving, honesty, and trust. Complete with exercises, this book is a primer for everyone who finds that an adversarial model of power exchange isn’t the best choice for their relationship. |
![]() | Conquer Me: Girl-To-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires | | | | | Submissive women have needs just like anybody else. But how can a woman get her needs met when she's relinquished her power to her dominant partner?
With warmth, wisdom and a down-to-earth approach, experienced submissive Kacie Cunningham analyzes the realities of the dominant-submissive lifestyle and suggests ways in which both partners can experience the greatest possible growth and pleasure.
At the heart of the book is an emotion Kacie has dubbed "Conquer Me" -- which she defines as "the submissive's internal demand for a show of strength." Without a clear understanding of "conquer me," both submissive and dominant may find themselves at odds -- either fighting unhappily, or watching the passion ebb from their relationship. This book explains this unique need and how to get it met -- essential knowledge for any submissive or couple who wants to get the most out of their D/s lifestyle |
![]() | Dark Eros: The Imagination of Sadism | | | | Psychology of the Marquis de Sade | An astonishing look at the dark side of the soul from the author of The Care of the Soul and Soulmates. |
![]() | Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships | | Raven Kaldera & Joshua Tenpenny | | | The world of consenting Master/slave relationships often seems murky and mysterious from an outsider's perspective, and there are few models for those who are tentatively venturing into it. When it's not just a fantasy any more, reality often turns out to be so different from fantasy that would-be owners and slaves don't know how to make it work in a sustainable way. This book is as far from fantasy as it gets. Written by a real-life Master/slave couple who counsel people in power-dynamic relationships, Dear Raven and Joshua answers real questions about real problems encountered in daily living with M/s. Whether you're playing part-time with a BDSM lifestyle, live in a leather household, or are attempting a 24/7 total power exchange, you'll find this book is a trouble-shooting resource you won't want to pass up. |
![]() | Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance & Submission | | Gloria G. Brame, Willian D. Brame, Jon Jacobs | | | A breakthrough in sexual literature, this work is a complete, comprehensive user-friendly guide to and tour through the world of alternative sexual lifestyles. While the topics are exotic and erotic, the authors handle each one in a sensitive, thorough, analytical, and fascinating way and manage to explain a secret world to those who might wish to visit. |
![]() | Extreme Passions: Erotic Interludes #4 | | Radclyffe & Stacia Seaman (Editors) | | | A collection of over 30 erotic tales of love and lust that know no bounds, this title explores just how far women will go to get the girl. |
![]() | Female Domination: an exploration of the male desire for loving female authority | | | | Female dominance, male submission | Sex, Relationships, Sexuality |
![]() | Gay San Francisco: Eyewitness Drummer - A Memoir of the Sex, Art, Salon, Pop Culture War, and Gay History of Drummer Magazine - The Titanic 1970s to 1999, Volume 1 | | Jack Fritscher & Mark Hemry | | | Eyewitness Fritscher, the lover of Robert Mapplethorpe, breaks the trance of received gay history. In this timeline archive of art, sex, obscenity, gender, and gay mafia, 21st-century readers will get up to speed fast on the serious fun of who did what to whom when and why. In the Titanic 1970s, longtime Drummer editor Fritscher added erotic realism to the magical thinking of Drummer readers wanting a magazine that made newly liberated sex seem possible and accessible. Based on internal evidence in Drummer, journals, diaries, letters, photos, interviews, recordings, and newspapers, this ultimate insider s guide to the Rise and Fall of Castro and Folsom Streets is a risky ride that brings back what a thrill it was to pick up your first issue of Drummer. Fritscher s frisson anchors San Francisco s wild Gay Lib history on the clear chronology of the legendary monthly Drummer. Academia meets pop culture! Fritscher is the Ken Burns of Drummer magazine. Fritscher has done the research work most academics won t do thus ensuring that historians, critics and anthropologists will cut and paste with delight for years to come. Fritscher reads gloriously! San Francisco Chronicle |
![]() | How to Be Kinky: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM | | | | | For singles and couples looking to take a walk on the wild side but questioning where to begin, How to be Kinky offers the perfect starting place.
Instead of emphasizing techniques and clinical issues, it takes a more practical approach, with advice on finding a scene, negotiating kinky play with a partner, maintaining boundaries, kinky uses for common household objects, and the proper protocol at fetish events, as well as the basics of BDSM play and role-playing. |
![]() | How to be Kinkier: More Adventures in Adult Playtime | | | | | Following the incredibly popular first book in the series, How to Be Kinkier dives deeper into the world of BDSM in the same accessible and fun style. With over 200 gorgeous full-color photos and 20 sexy step-by-step photo essays, this book educates and excites at the same time. Having introduced readers to the fun and fabulous basics of adult play with his first book, Morpheous now takes his audience on a trip into the naughtier side of their personalities.
With an introduction by porn star, feminist and sex educator Nina Hartley, a huge fan of the first book, How to Be Kinkier gives instruction and inspiration on how to discover your favorite fetish and find out just how kinky you really are. |
![]() | Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook | | | | | If you can tie your shoelaces you can create an erotic masterpiece! While it is not for everybody exploring erotic bondage can be incredibly satisfying and fulfilling. It has the potential to enrich your life enrich your relationship and can even be a means of profound personal growth. This 6" x 9" softbound 323-page handbook is a compendium of sensible sensational advice about how to tie up your sweetie or get tied up yourself! It is an essential read for anyone interested in bondage... as intelligent and entertaining as it is informative. |
![]() | Justice: And Other Short Erotic Tales | | | | | A male captive falls from the grasp of his cruel owner and into kinder clutches -- or are they? A restless woman purchases the "perfect slave, " a beautiful robot designed to serve her in every way... then discovers that perfection might not work out exactly as she expected. These unforgettable characters and more are part of the passionate world of TammyJo Eckhart, a groundbreaking writer of female-dominant erotica. After decades of material written by men for men, Ms. Eckhart gives us a fresh, uniquely feminine yet diamond-hard view of a universe in which women's pleasure is paramount. An ideal volume for any woman who has ever dreamed of power, any man who yearns for such women... and anyone who's ever believed that "women just don't think about things like that." |
![]() | | | | | | Black as a starless night and smooth as pure silk, nothing entices eroticism like the look and feel of leather. Lisette Ashton exhults in the sultry, distinctive aroma of leather with a perfect description of the erotic aspects of sliding into her new leather jacket in "Truman Capote Was Wrong." In "Sunday Service", author Kate Pearce takes a love of leather and punishment even further in this homage to a black belt. These stories will fill your senses with all there is to enjoy in and out of leather. |
![]() | Leather Sex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player | | | | | Everyone wants a more interesting and fulfilling erotic life. With that in mind, this book was written to give guidance to one popular style of erotic play which the author calls "leathersex"-sexuality that may include S/M, bondage, dominance, submission, fantasy, role playing, sensual physical stimulation, and fetish, to name just a few. If you are simply curious about leathersex, or if you already enjoy its pleasures but want to learn more, this book is for you! |
![]() | | | | | | The Leatherman's Handbook was Number 46 on Lambda Book Report's end-of-the-millenium list of 100 Gay & Lesbian Books that changed our lives.
"...Leatherman's Handbook was an immediate cult classic when it first came out in 1972. Its publication was the first step in bringing leather sex into the open in the gay world. Its instant popularity proved just how interested men were in this previously taboo subject." - John Preston, 1993
"What L.T. offers in the Handbook are principles learned through years of experience in the SM playing field, and he invites you to agree or disagree with his ideas and conclusions...a pioneering work in gay SM." - Victor Terry, 1997
"The groundbreaking 1972 publication of Larry Townsend's Leatherman's Handbook is as remarkable a construct as Stonewall itself, because it was a declaration of independence for 'anatomically Correct' homomasculinity." - Jack Fritscher, 1996
NB: The author states in 'Epilogue for a New Millenium' (p. 275) that the first printing of the Silver Jubilee Edition in 1997 was "handled very badly" by his publisher and that the books were nearly all remaindered. |
![]() | Master's Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance | | | | | Jack Rinella is a columnist for Gay Chicago and has been an active leathersex top with over 17 years of experience. In this book he relays personal experience of leatherfolk, scenes, kink and becoming a successful leather top. Written in an addictive first-person format, The Master's Manual offers insights into the gay leather community and how to find your stride with domination, submission and play. Covering multiple topics in quickly-digestible chapters, The Master's Manual is a compendium of light-bite advice to offer answers to your questions and provide guidance to assist you in your endeavors. No subject is too taboo for Rinella as he guides you through his personal experiences and annotates them with retrospective advice to sate your curiosity about all aspects of the gay leather scene. |
![]() | Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice | | | | | This book is for Masters. This book is for established Masters who are curious about what someone could possibly write on the subject they know so well. This book is also for those relatively new to the BDSM Lifestyle who are finding themselves called to Mastery. The book covers a wide range of topics, starting with some planning steps to use before you even start looking for a slave, progressing through the negotiations stages, and ending up with some tips and techniques that you can consider once you've been with your slave for a while. In that light, this book is an excellent choice if you are already in an M/s relationship and want some ideas about how to do a reality check. |
![]() | Miss Manners' Guide for the Turn-Of-The-Millennium | | | | | With the wit, tact, and wisdom that have made Miss Manners a household name, America's foremost authority on civilized behavior takes you through every aspect of your personal, professional, and social life with ease and charm.
From somewhat classic queries:
* What do I wear to a job interview/felony trial/jacuzzi?
* Where does the soup spoon/seafood fork/butter knife go?
To comments on truly modern phenomena:
* Call waiting is like a child screaming for attention
* Leaky earphones are the equivalent of humming
To strictly personal do's and don'ts:
* Don't communicate everything in a marriage ("I had the wildest dream about a man at my office...")
* Do continue the ancient custom of mealtimes, that is, breakfast, lunch, and dinner
And professional guidelines:
* Don't start grabbing company property after being fired
* If a candy dish is on the visitor's side of a receptionist's desk, it is for visitors...
Miss Manners offers consistently sound, sage advice to her Gentle Readers.
With a tipping guide (including coat checks and pizza deliveries), sections devoted to both traditional and nontraditional households, details on protocol for ceremonies and celebrations, invitations and disinvitations, insights on courtship and romance, and much more, this is the comprehensive guide to a kinder, gentler, more civilized society. |
![]() | Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave relationships | | | | | Nothing could be a greater expression of personal freedom than the decision to renounce your freedom and become a slave, subject to the will of another person. |
![]() | Partners in Power: Living in Kinky Relationships | | | | | Is it possible to form lasting, healthy, loving relationships that are based on power, control and pain? Of course it is -- if you approach it with common sense, care and affection. Respected scene leader Jack Rinella has carefully explored how BDSM relationships fit into the lives of real people of all genders and orientations. |
| Pervert: Notes from the Sexual Underground | | | | BDSM history 1980's and 90's | In her introduction, Nancy Ava Miller claims to have written a book about how she could not write a book about her life in the sex industry.In so doing, she nevertheless documents the heart of the B&D/S&M netherworld as it existed for many in the 1980s and 90s?the desperation, the obsession, the passion, the gathering together of kinky souls in back alley clubs and support networks, the intimacy, the love, and her own sexual odyssey. |
![]() | Pleasure Bound: True Bondage Stories | | | | | From start to finish, this solid collection of BDSM stories earns its kinky merit badge for its explicit tales of pleasure and pain. Featuring work by Thomas Roche, Diana St. John, Sommer Marsden, Shanna Germain, and other erotic masters, the stories grab the listener and leave them begging for more - and bound and determined to turn their own bondage fantasies into tightly-controlled reality. |
![]() | Protocols: Handbook for the female slave | | | | M/s relationships, protocols | This book is a guide prepared for a slave to enable her to express her love for her Master through her actions. In this case, her actions include ways of standing, sitting and speaking (ways of being) as well as ways of preparing things to please her Master in a consensual "Master/slave" relationship. The book covers formal Leather protocols as well as a range of personal rituals, such as formal dinner service. As much as anthing else, this is a book of etiquette and service within the Leather-BDSM culture. |
![]() | Puppy Papers 2, Puppy's Tales | | Puppy Sharon & Steven Toushin | | | Puppy s Tales begins where The Puppy Papers left off. Puppy s Tales is a true, honest, bold, exciting, and bizarre exposure of two people s lives in the forbidden world of sexual sadomasochism and domination submission. Puppy s Tales is the continuation of Steven Toushin and puppy sharon s BDSM relationship as it evolves from Domination and submission to a contracted Master slave relationship. This books reveals the complexites of a relationship embedded with a Ds philosophy at the heart of its foundation. |
![]() | SM 101: A Realistic Introduction | | | | | Call it what you like - bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism. More and more people are experimenting with this exciting , consensual form of erotic play. SM 101 is your basic guidebook to safe rewarding SM. This book includes: finding partners, negotiating the scene you want, bondage techniques, spanking and whipping, erotic torture, role playing, related practices, physical and emotional safety. Must read book. |
![]() | Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns | | Phillip Miller, Molly Devon | | | The classic guide to sadomasochism by two experienced players. This unabashed, entertaining book strips away myth, shame and fear, revealing the truth about an intense form of eroticism too long misunderstood and condemned.� |
![]() | Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage | | | | | From ornately decorative to excruciatingly stringent, Japanese rope bondage is an art which has developed over centuries of martial and erotic practice. Now, accomplished Japanese-born educator and bondage practitioner, Midori shows step by step how to achieve beautiful and exciting Japanese bondage on a variety of genders and body types. |
![]() | | | | | | Servants of Destiny is about fate and how everyone person, free or enslaved, poor or rich, male or female, can choose to fight their lot in life or embrace and empower it. |
| Sex, Stories and Power Exchange | | | | Power Exchange relationships | This book is the adventures of a loving and erotic power exchange couple who decided to make their fantasies come true. It tells the stories of what they did (in story format!) as well as the lessons they learned on the way regarding love, jealousy, healthy group sex, mindfulness in lust, and more. |
![]() | Sexing the Body: Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality | | | | | Why do some people prefer heterosexual love while others fancy the same sex? Is sexual identity biologically determined or a product of convention? In this brilliant and provocative book, the acclaimed author of Myths of Gender argues that even the most fundamental knowledge about sex is shaped by the culture in which scientific knowledge is produced.Drawing on astonishing real-life cases and a probing analysis of centuries of scientific research, Fausto-Sterling demonstrates how scientists have historically politicized the body. In lively and impassioned prose, she breaks down three key dualisms - sex/gender, nature/nurture, and real/constructed - and asserts that individuals born as mixtures of male and female exist as one of five natural human variants and, as such, should not be forced to compromise their differences to fit a flawed societal definition of normality. |
![]() | | | Jennifer Dunne, Madeline Oh, Dominique Adair | | | Gia Conti, ex ballerina, was injured in a car accident caused by the man who'd been stalking her. Forced to leave the stage due to her injuries, she moves across the country to recuperate and begin a new life. Responding to a personal ad that seemed written with her in mind, Gia makes a leap of faith and answers the ad to meet the handsome Drake Whelan. Just when she decides to take a chance with her heart, she finds shattering evidence that her lover might be the same man who'd ended her career. |
![]() | SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude - Principles, Skills, and Tools | | | | | The author of Ties That Bind joins forces with a grateful slave to produce this gripping and personal account on the subject of consensual slavery. Philosophical and intense, SlaveCraft dares to delve beneath the surface of D/s relationships and give us an intimate and revealing view from a rare perspective--that of a slave. |
| Spanked: Red Cheeked Erotica | | Rachel Kramer Bussel (Editor) | | | Erotic spanking � whether giving or receiving � is one of the most exciting, arousing, and sensual experiences to enjoy. In this enticing collection, spanking enthusiast Rachel Kramer Bussel has assembled 22 tales of red-cheeked arousal. Whether being disciplined for naughtiness or simply because they crave the sting of a hand against flesh, the men and women in these stories revel in being bent over, paddled, punished, and possessed by their spankers. Those delivering the blows find extreme pleasure in pushing their bottoms� buttons, making them � and the reader � tremble and quiver in anticipation as they await the next smack. Featuring stories by Alison Tyler, Sage Vivant, Stan Kent, Elizabeth Coldwell, Thomas Roche, and others, this sizzling collection offers tales so breathtakingly vivid that readers might find their own cheeks sore just from reading it. |
![]() | Spirit of Desire: Personal Explorations of Sacred Kink | | | | | Spirit of Desire features thirty-three profoundly personal and diverse stories sharing the revelations, power, connections, and pathways explored in Sacred Kink. Each of these passages is shared from the heart, a glimpse into the intimate. Some of the authors have been on the road for decades, others for a short time; some have spoken about their passions before, others are only now putting pen to page. Through their eyes we will dive deep and find new insights into: Catharsis. Clarity. Intimacy. Lust. Devotion. Passion. Beauty. Hope. Energy. Faith. Intention. Fear. Consent. Service. Openness. Suffering. Surrender. Connection. Sacredness. Desire. Forgiveness. Divinity. Epiphany. Love... and more Whether you are a traveler on the road of sexual expression, a spiritual seeker on a quest for enlightenment, or a curious creature wondering what this is all about... be prepared to take your breath away, be left hot and bothered, ponder the nature of love, and meditate on a wide variety of odysseys. |
![]() | Spiritual Transformation Through BDSM | | | | | Some people feel that their spiritual side is always present and always powerful, whether doing BDSM or anything else, so BDSM always has to do with spirituality...As for me, I believe it takes conscious acts to live a spiritual life. Spirituality is fundamental to how I move through my life and BDSM is one way to stamp my ticket there. Sensuous Sadie Spiritual Transformation through BDSM does not presume to be a step-by-step manual for obtaining enlightenment through bondage, domination, sadism, or masochism, although it provides enough for the reader to plot their own path. At once both scholarly and approachable, this book is a compilation of dozens of interviews, articles, anecdotes, and tales, by the today's leaders in the BDSM community. By reading Spiritual Transformation, practicioners of BDSM are encouraged to consider the religious and spiritual importance of their devotion. |
![]() | The Bride Wore Black Leather: And He Looked Fabulous! | | | | | How do you introduce your slave to your mother? What address do you put on a letter to your brother and his male lover? How can a butch lesbian get proper service in the men's department? What's the best way to handle it if you mistakenly call your transgendered friend by the wrong pronoun?Drew Campbell, the etiquette diva who brought you Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual, has teamed with award-winning cartoonist Donna Barr to bring you witty, realistic and occasionally slightly scandalous advice for the situations we all encounter in today's marvelously complex world. An ideal stocking stuffer for anyone who believes that queerness and courtesy are the perfect combination! |
![]() | The Compleat Slave � Creating and Living an Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle | | | | | In this highly anticipated followup to The Master's Manual, author Jack Rinella continues his in-depth exploration and discussion of Dominant/submissive relationships with his latest book, The Compleat Slave. This informative overview of the leather scene features Rinella's guidelines, tips, and personal experiences in creating safe and sane Master/slave relationships. |
![]() | | | | | | The Control Book is about the fine art of taking control of your partner. It's about the processes involved, about taking control, using control, about ensuring that you have control, and-importantly-about giving control back once you are done with it. The book discusses how this works-the psychology of it-and looks at what can go right, and at what can go wrong and how to fix it. It considers the role of authority in the equation, and looks at how to manage the control you have over someone so that it is both effective and rewarding for you both. I believe that a very large part of the activities which we include under the umbrella of BDSM rely explicitly or implicitly on control being asserted over one person by another. |
![]() | The Dictionary of Scene Friendly Terms | | | | | With more than 350 definitions of the words used by practitioners of alternative sexuality, The Dictionary of Scene-Friendly Terms has been compiled from the glossaries of some of the most important authors of our day. It also includes abbreviations, names of whips, a short hanky code, and a listing of our fetishes. |
![]() | The Ethical Slut: A guide to infinite sexual possibilities | | Dossie Easton & Catherine A Liszt | | | For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle--from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms. |
| The Human Pony: a handbook for owners, trainers and admirers | | | | | Renowned ponymistress Rebecca Wilcox distills her decades of experience owning and training bio-horses, plus her fiendishly kinky imagination, into a comprehensive, photographically illustrated introduction to outfitting and training the human pony. |
![]() | The Leather Contest Guide | | | | | A Handbook for Promoters, Contestants, Judges and Titleholders |
![]() | | | | | | John Warren, known as "Mentor" to the many who have read his books or hearkened to his sage advice at his workshops and gatherings, brought his decades of BDSM experience to his classic manual "The Loving Dominant". |
![]() | | | Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy | | | Almost a decade ago, the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming - being a submissive, masochist, slave, 'boy' or 'girl, ' or other BDSM recipient -- is as much an art as topping. Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players. Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book gives even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular bottom! |
![]() | | | Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy | | | Tens of thousands learned the emotional and ethical skills of BDSM topping from the first `Topping Book.` Now, in addition to the sage advice and good humor that made the first edition a classic, the authors tackle some of the issues that have come up for tops in the last six years: on-line domination, the challenges and rewards of `lifestyle` relationships, ensuring our own and our partners` safety, and more. |
![]() | The Pleasure's All Mine: The Memoir of a Professional Submissive | | | | | When Joan Kelly took a weekend job as a professional submissive in a private dungeon, it seemed she'd finally found a perfect outlet for her pent-up desires. Suddenly, Joan was being paid to do things she'd only fantasized about. Having spent several years scouring the Internet unsuccessfully for a man who would dominate her in the bedroom without getting on her nerves outside of it, Joan had nearly lost hope of satisfying her sexually submissive urges. |
![]() | The Puppy Papers: A Woman's Life and Journey into BDSM | | Puppy Sharon & Steven Toushin | | | There is no other book or story that captures so well the honest and real quest of a women's search for her Master in the alternate world of the BDSM lifestyle. The Puppy Papers is an interesting, well-constructed story geared towards the adventurous woman, the vanguard reader, and those thirsting for a story on the cutting edge of sexuality. |
![]() | The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love | | | | | In The Soul of Sex, Thomas Moore at last restores sex to its rightful place in the human psyche. Describing sex as an experience of the soul, Thomas Moore here brings out the fully human side of sex � the roles of fantasy, desire, meaning, and morality � and draws on religion, mythology art, literature, and film to show how sex is one of the most profound mysteries of life. |
![]() | The Trainer: Marketplace Book 3 | | | | | The 3rd book in THE MARKETPLACE series brings us into the house of Anderson, the Trainer of Trainers, where Chris Parker and a few clients are in residence. Michael LaGuardia loves being part of the Marketplace and loves the sex slaves he regularly trains. After a couple of years in California, though, Michael thinks he is ready for a step up, an apprenticeship with Anderson. |
![]() | This Curious Human Phenomenon | | | | | "This Curious Human Phenomenon" looks under the hood to find out what's really going on, at why people "do" BDSM, at what makes it so enticing, at what needs it meets, and at why these can't readily be met elsewhere. This is not a how-to book. |
![]() | To Love, To Obey, To Serve: Diary of an Old Guard Slave | | | | | Within these pages are the real life experiences of an extraordinary woman as recorded in her journal. Vi Johnson is one of the most loved and respected women in the leather community. She entered the Leather s/m scene in the 1970's as a slave. A slave's duty was to Love, Honor, Please, and Obey, sometimes blindly, often at great personal cost. To own or life the life of a full time slave is, and has been, the stuff of s/m fantasies and erotic stories. The life recorded here reveals the realities, which are quite different from the fantasies. Most of all this is the journey of a woman following her dream. |
![]() | | | | | | It's extraordinary, but the vacation that high-powered executive Janice Singleton books at a remote ranch in Wyoming overturns all her expectations when she finds herself at the sexual mercy of the men who manage this unusual holiday spot. At first appalled and outraged by their rites of bondage and torture, Janice soon begins to take a masochist's delight in the bizarre sexual rituals of the erotically masterful ranch hands. Under their tutelage Janice headily embarks on a voyage of libidinous exploration and exquisite release in this novel of lush sensual abandon. |
![]() | Twenty Five Years of Living in Leather | | | | | This is a great addition to any leather library! Written by an historian, this is one of the first books to chronicle the history and evolution of a Leather/BDSM organization. This book traces the history of the organization and provides detailed information regarding some of the people, places, and events involved in formation and shaping the NLA, from its earliest inception, through its period of activism, to �Living in Leather,� NLA�s flagship event that continues to serve as a model today. The book also provides information about the NLA officers, titleholders and award winners. |
![]() | Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes | | | | | When Two Knotty Boys, Dan and J. D., began teaching rope bondage together in 1999, they discovered that most people learn best when they're shown � close up, step by step, and repeatedly � how to tie basic knots and combine them into bondage techniques. It is this learning process that they duplicate in this book. With the help of world-renowned photographer Larry Utley, they use over 750 photos and captions to explicate the soup-to-nuts techniques for turning great knots into great bondage that is safe, sensual, attractive, and effective. Readers can learn at their own pace, review whole techniques at a single glance, or even lay it flat on the table (beside their blindfolded partner) and follow along as they tie. Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes appeals to those interested in improving the quality of their sex lives, not to mention aficionados of bondage and discipline/sadomasochism (BDSM), both curious newcomers and serious players alike. |
![]() | Unequal by Design: Counseling Power Dynamic Relationships | | Sabrina Popp, Raven Kaldera | | Counseling power exchange | Power dynamic relationships - meaning deliberately negotiated unequal relationships - are often misunderstood by mental health professionals as inevitably abusive. This anthology of essays by kink-aware therapists explodes that myth, and gives solid, practical advice for effectively counseling couples in these alternative relationships. Edited by a psychiatrist and a professional educator on power dynamic relationships, this book should be a cultural-competency reference for any mental health professional, because you never know who might be sitting on your couch someday. |
![]() | | | | | | A subculture of gay men participate in a radical form of sexuality and community known as leather. Through intimate forms of encounter, using such tools as pain-pleasure, bondage, and role-play, leather can bring a shift of conciousness and a new vision of the self. This innovative book pioneered in sensitively exploring and celebrating leathersexuality. As relevant today as when it was written 20 years ago, Urban Aboriginals is an intimate view of the gay male leather community. Within its pages, author Geoff Mains explores the spritual, sexual, emotional, cultural and physiological aspects that make this "scene" one of the most prominent yet misunderstood subcultures in our society. |
